This is so Gross. Why Are You Writing About This?!

For centuries, women have been left out of the conversation about their own bodies—especially when it comes to sexual anatomy and pleasure. At Phenxx, we believe understanding the female body is not just about sex or science. It's about autonomy, clarity, and freedom.

The confusion between squirting and female ejaculation is one of the most common—and most misunderstood—topics in sexual wellness. Some think they’re the same. Others don’t believe either are real. Many women have experienced one, both, or something they couldn’t name.

This editorial sets the record straight. With grounded science, accessible insight and a focus on body-literacy, we’re rewriting the language of fluid release—without the shame, myths or medical dismissal. 

Oh, and most importantly we want to talk about why this isn't gross and exactly why we are talking about this.

 

What Is Female Ejaculation?

Female ejaculation is a milky-white fluid released from the Skene’s glands—tiny yet potent structures often called the "female prostate." This fluid, rich in prostatic-specific antigen (PSA) and other enzymes, emerges through the urethra at peak arousal or orgasm. It is typically small in volume, sacred in intention, and akin to a whisper from within. A prayer in fluid.

Key to understand here is that it is a release of a small amount of fluid—usually about a teaspoon or less—during orgasm. 

This fluid:

• Is released from the Skene’s glands, sometimes called the female prostate.

• Is biochemically similar to male seminal fluid (but without sperm).

• Contains prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP).

This release travels through the urethra, and is not urine. Its volume tends to be minimal and often goes unnoticed. For some, it happens during G-spot stimulation; for others, it may occur during orgasm or not at all.

Female ejaculation is real. It’s been documented in medical literature, confirmed in clinical studies, and yet still shrouded in social doubt.

 

What Is Squirting?

Squirting, by contrast, is an expulsion—clear, copious, dramatic. The source? A mix of urethral fluid and bladder contents, released through rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor, most often following G-spot stimulation. While the fluid may contain traces of urea, it is not the same as urination. And even if it were—how radical would it be to love the leak? To reframe wetness as a blessing, not a burden?

So yes, squirting is different to ejaculation. It involves the release of a larger volume of clear fluid—sometimes even gushing. It could feel like you wet the bed or lost bladder control. You didn’t, you squirted!

What we know:

• The fluid passes through the urethra.

• It typically originates from the bladder but may be mixed with small amounts of fluid from the Skene’s glands.

• It is not the same as urination, though traces of urea may be present.

MRI and ultrasound studies show that the bladder fills with fluid prior to squirting, and empties after. This fluid is not identical to urine, and the act is often associated with intense physical release, deep arousal, and for many, a sense of emotional or energetic letting go.

Squirting can happen with or without orgasm, and like ejaculation, not all women experience it.

 

Between Stigma and Science: A History Soaked in Shame

The cultural story of feminine fluids has long been muddied by shame. Western medicine only recently began to differentiate between squirting and ejaculation, and even now, the science is incomplete.

In ancient times, fluid was not feared—it was revered.
Priestesses of Inanna were said to awaken divine fertility through sacred touch and the offerings of their ecstatic fluids. In Eastern tantra, orgasmic liquids were considered elixirs of Shakti, the creative feminine life force.

But patriarchy, in its deep discomfort with female ecstasy, reduced these phenomena to medical anomalies or “mysteries.” The orgasm became mythologised. Female pleasure, pathologised.

In the medieval era, the idea of women releasing fluids during sex was considered either witchcraft or hysteria. Literally. The Greek root word for womb is hyster, and thus the diagnosis of “hysteria” was born—not as an ailment, but as a misunderstanding of the sacred.

 

The Feminine Flow: Pleasure Beyond Performance

Squirting is not a performance.
Ejaculating is not a trick.
Neither should be expected, demanded, or doubted.

They are not signs of "doing it right" or being "sexually advanced." They are simply responses—physiological, emotional, spiritual—often arising when a woman feels deeply safe, seen, and surrendered.

Not all women squirt.
Not all women ejaculate.
Not all women need to.

This is not another metric of worth. It is simply another mystery of the feminine form.

And yet, for many women, the act of release—be it a jet, a trickle, or a single drop—can feel like a remembering. Of their power. Their softness. Their ability to let go.

 

Science Bows to Soul: What Studies Show Us

In recent years, MRI studies and biochemical analyses have confirmed that:

• Ejaculatory fluid is rich in enzymes from the Skene’s glands

• Squirting fluid originates in the bladder but becomes mixed with secretions during sexual stimulation

• Both can occur simultaneously—or not at all

But the soul of the matter cannot be measured in labs.

We know that stress inhibits release. That trauma lodges in the pelvis. That societal shame tethers the thighs. And so, the body responds accordingly: withhold, contract, forget.

Until one day, she doesn’t.
She softens. She remembers. She lets the water speak.

When a woman surrenders to her body’s own tide,
She is not just experiencing pleasure.
She is invoking liberation.

This is liquid sovereignty. A letting go so total, it writes a new story in the body.

You are safe to feel. You are free to flow. You are sacred.

Do You Have to Squirt or Ejaculate to Be "Normal"?

Absolutely not.

There is no hierarchy of pleasure. There is no “right” way to orgasm. These releases are physiological responses—beautiful, but not benchmarks of sexual skill or worth.

Some women may never squirt or ejaculate and still have deeply fulfilling, embodied sex lives. Others may find that they do—often after feeling more emotionally and physically safe, exploring new forms of stimulation, or simply becoming more connected to their own arousal.

At Phenxx, we affirm this truth:
Every woman’s body is unique, and all expressions of pleasure are valid.

 

The Role of Safety, Education and Self-Trust

One of the most overlooked factors in female pleasure is nervous system safety. When we are anxious, ashamed or distracted, our pelvic floor tightens, arousal drops, and the ability to feel—to release, to open, to soften—becomes limited.

That’s why education matters. And so does design.

Tools like our Phenxx Cooling Canvas exist to support the full spectrum of female experience—blood, ejaculate, sweat, desire—without the anxiety of stains, interruptions or extra labour. Because when the body is supported, the mind can rest. When the mind rests, pleasure deepens.

 

So, What’s the Actual Difference?

While often used interchangeably, female ejaculation and squirting are two distinct physiological experiences with different sources, sensations, and compositions.

Female ejaculation is a small release of fluid that comes from the Skene’s glands, which are sometimes referred to as the female prostate. This fluid typically contains prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP)—biochemical markers that also appear in male seminal fluid. The release occurs via the urethra, is often subtle, and usually coincides with orgasm or deep internal stimulation, particularly around the G-spot area. For many women, it happens unnoticed. For others, it’s a quiet yet affirming signal of pleasure.

Squirting, on the other hand, involves a larger volume of fluid, sometimes released in a dramatic or gushing manner. While the fluid also exits through the urethra, it primarily originates from the bladder, though it may include a small mix of secretions from the Skene’s glands. Studies show that this fluid is not identical to urine, even if trace amounts of urea are present. It’s typically clear, odourless, and released in response to intense internal stimulation—often also around the G-spot, but not necessarily tied to orgasm.

Importantly, neither experience is universal. Not all women ejaculate. Not all women squirt. Both responses are valid, both are real, and both are deeply personal. They are not markers of sexual success or failure, but rather reflections of how the body responds under conditions of trust, arousal, and safety.

 

 

Reclaiming the Full Spectrum of Female Pleasure

Too often, female pleasure has been filtered through the lens of performance, porn, or pathology. But the truth is more nuanced—and more empowering.

• Squirting is real.

• Ejaculation is real.

• Neither are required.

• Both are worthy of understanding and respect.

This isn’t just about fluids. It’s about freedom. The freedom to know your body. The freedom to feel without fear. The freedom to stop asking "am I normal?" and start asking "what do I want?"

 

Your Body. Your Wisdom. Your Flow.

We believe education is a form of reclamation.

That includes understanding what squirting is. What female ejaculation is. What they aren’t. And what they mean in the context of your whole, nuanced, intelligent, desiring body.

You are not here to be small. Or dry. Or quiet. You are here to feel, to understand, and to choose. That is power. That is science. That is self-love.

 

An Invitation to Let Go

To every woman who has ever questioned her body:
Your fluid is not an accident. It is an oracle.

Whether you squirt, ejaculate, both or neither—your pleasure is valid. Your anatomy is worthy. Your wetness is wisdom.

We do not need more boxes to tick or more metrics to meet.
We need space to soften.
We need tools that honour, not interrupt.
We need truths that feel like coming home.

And most of all, we need the courage to reclaim the parts of ourselves that were drowned in silence.

So—let it flow.
Let it be.
Let it rise.

You are not too much. You are made of oceans.
And the tide, my love, was always yours to command.