Today I am musing about something that feels both obvious and completely misunderstood at the same time. I want to talk about the difference between feminism, feminist activity, being a feminist, compared to being embodied in the feminine. Because there is quite a big difference between feminist activity, feminist movements, being an active feminist, believing in feminism, and actually being embodied in the feminine
And it is important to touch on the difference between these two things, where they originate, and therefore what the outcomes of each actually are.
Feminism is taking the structure of patriarchy and trying to insert women into it. Trying to insert a role with a kind of quasi equality into that existing structure
Patriarchy is a hierarchical structure with a few at the top and a lot at the bottom. It is a pyramid. It exists in hierarchy, in structures, in systems where a small number of people make decisions, often behind closed doors, on behalf of everyone else. Whether that is a government, a corporation, a board, a leadership team. The system moves based on decisions made by a few, and the rest participate within it.
We have rules that govern competition. We have markets that say competition is normal, healthy, required. The outcome is productivity, efficiency, production. Something must be created, something must be sold, something must be traded. And the god of this system is money, power and control
Those who control have more money and power. Those with money gain more control. Those with power gain more money. It is a loop. And because women have historically not been given access to money, control or power, feminism emerges as the movement that fights for equal access to those things.
And yes, that can be seen as a good thing. Women need access to resources in order to live within the system that exists. But the deeper question is where the desire to create change is coming from. Is it internal or external
Because when you are looking externally at a structure and asking how do I insert myself into it, that is an external way of being. It is competitive. It is based on comparison. It is based on positioning yourself within something that already exists.
Patriarchy operates on the belief that creation comes from force, extraction or taking what already exists. That resources are external. That safety is external. That money is external. That value is external
And so everyone inside that system begins to believe that external resources have more value than anything internal. Safety is derived externally. Money is derived externally. Worth is derived externally. And everything is traded through scarcity, lack and urgency.
Feminism, within that context, becomes the existence of women inside an artificial system that trades external power, control and currency. It is still operating within the same belief that value is outside of the self
And this is where the distinction begins.
Because feminine embodiment does not start there. It does not look at the world and ask where do I fit. It does not look at structures and ask how do I enter. It asks something entirely different. It asks what is the power that I am. What is the capacity that I hold. What can I create from who I am, from my body, from my wisdom, from my internal knowing
Feminism asks for inclusion. Feminine embodiment does not ask. It creates.
It does not seek permission. It does not negotiate with systems that were not designed for it. It plays its own frequency and if the structures of the world cannot hold that frequency, then those structures either shift or they fall
This is the fundamental difference. One is external. One is internal.
Feminism lives in the mind. It is a mental construct. Feminine embodiment lives in the body. It is connected to creation, to the womb, to the intelligence of the body itself
And when you begin to understand that, everything changes.
Because when a woman is disconnected from her body, from her menstruation, from her pleasure, from her womb, from her innate capacity to create, she is operating from survival. From fear. From a need to secure safety within an external system
Feminism in many ways emerges from that place. From a collective understanding that women deserve more than what they have been given, but without yet having access to their full internal, infinite capacity to create.
And so the fight becomes for better conditions within the system, rather than a complete shift of where power actually originates.
Because a woman who knows her internal capacity, her infinite ability to create, does not need to fight for the bare minimum. She is not negotiating for scraps. She is not asking for permission to exist.
She is creating.
And when you shift from the mind into the body, into the heart, into the womb, you begin to understand the technology of the body itself. The power to create. The power to birth. Not just children, but ideas, movements, businesses, communities
And from that place, the world looks different.
Hierarchy becomes irrelevant. Instead of pyramids, there are circles. Instead of competition, there is cohesion. Instead of individual survival, there is collective thriving.
Communities form where every role is valued. Where the woman who stays with the children is as essential as the woman building the company, because both are contributing to the whole.
This is not a new concept. It is a remembering.
There were times where societies were organised in collaborative, community based ways. Where women worked together, raised children together, created together. Where menstruation was understood, honoured, integrated into the rhythm of life
Where there was always someone in vitality and someone in deep intuition. Where cycles were not a problem, but a system of strength.
And within that, there was safety. Not because it was enforced, but because it was inherent in the structure of the community.
Feminine embodiment returns to that understanding.
It asks how do we create systems that actually support the body, the cycles, the nature of being a woman. How do we create from that place rather than trying to fit into something that was never designed to hold it.
Because the reality is the structures of patriarchy were not designed to benefit women. They were not designed to hold feminine intelligence. And they will not suddenly begin to do so just because women enter them
And so the shift is not about abandoning feminism, but about evolving beyond it.
Understanding that fighting for a seat at the table is one stage of evolution. But it is not the final stage.
The next stage is building entirely new tables. Or not building tables at all.
It is creating systems that are not based on scarcity, competition and extraction, but on creation, connection and internal power.
And this requires something deeper than activism. It requires embodiment.
It requires a woman to be willing to feel. To feel her body. To feel her cycles. To feel her rage, her grief, her pleasure, her desire. To reconnect with the parts of herself that have been suppressed for generations.
Because the body holds memory. The body holds the history of persecution, suppression, disconnection. The body remembers what it has not yet been safe to express
And so there is a process of returning.
Returning to the body. Returning to the womb. Returning to the internal source of power.
Not as an idea, but as a lived experience.
And from that place, everything changes.
Work changes. Relationships change. Money changes. Creation changes.
Because you are no longer creating from lack. You are creating from fullness.
You are no longer asking what can I get. You are asking what am I here to create.
And that question does not come with a simple answer.
It is lived. It is felt. It is discovered over time.
It requires letting go of identities, beliefs, structures that no longer align. It requires stepping away from what is familiar and stepping into something that may not yet fully exist.
It requires trust.
And it requires a willingness to stand outside of what is considered normal.
Because a woman who is fully embodied is not easily controlled. She is not easily inserted into systems that require her to be smaller than she is.
She is sovereign.
And that sovereignty is not granted. It is realised.
The future is not about women becoming equal within existing systems. It is about women remembering the systems they are capable of creating.
Not from the mind.
From the body.
From the truth of who they are.
Listen to the full episode on the Becoming Flame Podcast.
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